Column: Officials Must Find Solutions to Save Teens
Morris prosecutor's findings of violence against Lennon Baldwin show New Jersey's anti-bullying law isn't enough.
The suicide of a child is a tragedy under any circumstance, but it became even more so given the fact that it happened after New Jersey’s enactment of a tough anti-bullying law.
From all accounts, Lennon Baldwin was a pretty typical 15-year old. He played Xbox (Call of Duty) and basketball. He loved cats and watched South Park. He played guitar and drums and bowled a 258 (OK, that’s extraordinary). He was kind and had a great sense of humor. He was the kind of kid any parent would be proud of and any teen would be lucky to be. So much potential and a lifetime of anything’s-possible ahead.
But the criminal investigation into the events surrounding Baldwin’s death seems to indicate that Lennon wasn’t leading the carefree life teens in high school are supposed to enjoy. He was likely living in fear or desperation.
Last week, the Morris County Prosecutor’s office announced the results of its investigation into what Baldwin endured in school and after school in the weeks before his death. According to authorities, he was assaulted at Morristown High School, coerced by his attacker into lying that the assault had been just a joke and then robbed and threatened in a parking lot off school grounds.
Despite the fact that New Jersey put in place six months earlier what many have called the nation’s toughest anti-bullying law, and despite the fact that Morristown High School suspended the juvenile who assaulted Baldwin, he apparently did not feel safe at school.
Parents should, and some do, find that pretty scary.
What’s also scary is that it appears at the moment from all the information released so far—the Morris School District is doing its own investigation—that school officials and police did try to deal with the bullying situation.
According to Morris County Prosecutor Robert Bianchi, Morristown High’s surveillance system recorded the alleged assault and school officials suspended the aggressor two days later, despite Baldwin having told the dean of students that it had been a joke—the youth who allegedly assaulted him put him up to that.
Soon after, the investigation revealed, the aggressor and two others allegedly accosted Baldwin in the Century 21 parking lot. One allegedly stole money and said it was punishment for what had happened at school, the prosecutor's office said.
Although Bianchi did not say so, it would appear Baldwin or someone else informed police because the two juveniles were arrested and sent to the youth detention center for several days.
Law enforcement officials did not discuss cause and effect, but the juveniles were released March 27 and put on house arrest. The next day, Baldwin took his own life.
There has to be a way to get children to understand the devastating effects of bullying and mistreating others and to stop it and treat one another with at least respect.
There has to be a way to get victims to understand they can—must—tell others, including friends and especially adults: parents, counselors, teachers, police.
And there has to be a way to empower adults to truly protect the victims.
There have been mixed feelings about the bullying law. Some parents pooh-pooh it, saying it goes too far. Some school officials complain about being responsible for bullying that happens after school hours, off school property. Others say it won’t stop bullying. Sadly, the latter were right in this case.
At the very least, with the public announcement of the specifics surrounding the case, perhaps it will bring greater support for the anti-bullying law and get school and law enforcement officials to redouble their efforts to make the law as effective as possible.
Bianchi announced a late June bullying symposium in an effort to find and share best practices. That’s a great idea.
Hopefully that, and many other efforts, will be able to draw something positive out of this, figure a way to ensure that others will not suffer so and feel so desperate that they turn to the ultimate out.
Nothing can compensate for the tremendous loss the Baldwin family has endured, but if wise minds can come up with a way to save other youths, perhaps it could give them, and society as a whole, a little peace.
Colleen O'Dea is a writer, editor, researcher, data analyst, web page designer and mapper with almost three decades in the news business. Her column appears Mondays.
This column appears on Patch sites serving communities in Morris, Somerset and Sussex counties. Comments below may be by readers of any of those sites.
Alyson Music
9:06 am on Monday, June 4, 2012
These lawmakrs are idiots! They need to have parents of teens make these changes. Oooooh, so they get suspended for 2 days. I bet they played xbox the entire time. Really?? Unless these are college bound, highly motivated kids, suspension is not going to sway them from bullying. Parents are not parenting like they used to. How many do you actually think will have a consequence at home for a suspension for bullying? Most likely, bully's have been bullied. How about mandatory psych evaluation, at the parents cost, and not allowed to return to school without a release? Expultion with at home tutoring, at parents expense. Would also create a lot more jobs! And if any injury was caused to the victim, DYFS and criminal charges! It's not brain surgery.
Dina
9:13 am on Saturday, June 9, 2012
Well said Alyson. Are these kids going to get prosecuted for the death of this young man like Ravi. Bullying starts at home, suspension is a joke. Parents need to be responsible for this behavior and psych evals, and incarceration in a psych ward at teh parents expense is what may curb bullying. These bullys are our future CEO's, politicians, business owners, neighbors, criminals. Bullying starts very young, preschool age it is obvious. Girls and boys, just watch them on the playground...
Frank
9:09 am on Monday, June 4, 2012
More laws aren't the answer. How can you not realize that? Murder is illegal, that doesn't stop people from killing others. Speeding is illegal, that doesnt stop people from flooring the accelerator. You need to change people's minds and attitudes. Create a liberty friendly environment, not more nanny-state bullshit laws. Wake up, people.
Dan Grant
9:58 am on Monday, June 4, 2012
This was not a simple case of being a bully. This was a criminal act from the beginning and these alledged people should be dealth with as adults under criminal statutes.
mum
11:39 am on Wednesday, July 4, 2012
agreed!!!
Curt Carnes
10:31 am on Monday, June 4, 2012
Suicide is tragic, there is no question about that. However, why do we now demand blaming other's for the action of the one who committed suicide? Life is full of problems, always was, and always will be. Perhaps if these teen's or for that matter anyone committing suicide would have had a deeper relation with God, the bible, a church, whatever, they won't have decide to commit suicide. By the same token, if perhaps people whom bully others had a closer relation with God, they won't bully people.
The government can pass25 million laws about this, but it won't stop even one person who has decided to commit suicide, or bully others from doing it. It is MORALS that stop these tragic events. Morals not government is the answer.
LJ
11:13 am on Monday, June 4, 2012
Suicide can be stopped. I work in the mental health are of care. Loives are saved everyday if someone can notifiy that persons physician, the police, a parent, etc.
LJ
11:10 am on Monday, June 4, 2012
Suicide is tragic and we need to have something in place that is more accountable for the victim. I think we need a call in system like 911 and 311, and 211. We need a 111 and within the system certain data elements are captured. Name of person being bullied, name of persons witnessed as bullying, date/time of incident along with victim demographic info/school name, location of incident, and lastly person reporting the incident is held as confidential. Our NJ State of Health and Human Services needs to appoint a regultory entity to monitor the data. When the issue reaches a limit of concern, such as 3-incidents in 24hrs- the police must investigate immediately.
T Zinger
2:04 pm on Monday, June 4, 2012
LJ, I agree. I do recall seeing signs in Delaware that have a phone number and a message about if you need someone to talk to. I think all states should have something like this posted where people can see easily see it.
It's sad that some people do not have anyone they can go to when they truly feel defeated in a situation or in life. Until someone takes the time to help that person and find the root of the problem for that person, it seems we are going to continue on this downward spiral.
Madison Cyclist
2:15 pm on Monday, June 4, 2012
How would you suggest false accusations of bullying be handled? It would be ironic, under your 111 scenario, if the bully used this against the bullying victim. How do you tell who's telling the truth? This stuff isn't always black & white and there's no cookie cutter answer. Simple minded legislation isn't the answer.
GiGi Richards
2:03 pm on Monday, June 4, 2012
Alyson - I think you make good points. Until parents are truly made accountable and until the bullies are given appropriate punishments and bullying is no longer called "bullying" but termed "assault" or something more accurate nothing will change. Yes, laws regularly get broken but we need to start prosecuting crimes and having the punishment fit the crimes.
John Q
4:04 pm on Monday, June 4, 2012
My child was bullied for a year. The administration did nothing because they had no "proof" and turned the tables when my child started to defend himself- just to cover their own butts. Get the victims self defense lessons and let them handle it with a fat lip!
Madison Cyclist
4:27 pm on Monday, June 4, 2012
Right on, John. The only proven antidote to bullying is FIGHTING BACK. Remember the lyrics from "Oh what a lonely boy"? : They taught him how to fight to be nobody's fool. Expecting the government to take care of this is ridiculous.
Alyson Music
4:52 pm on Monday, June 4, 2012
I agree with you, John. I have informed my children they are not allowed to start a fight, but they should do whatever they need to do to defend themselves. We will suffer the consequences, if this happens. NEVER show weakness! BUT, there are some children that are just not capable, then what?
Michelle
4:14 pm on Monday, June 4, 2012
I feel that if a child takes their own life because of bullying, then that "bully" should be charged and sent to juvinile jail for murder. Granted the blood was not on their hands, but it might as well have been. To only give these kids 2 days suspension is ludacris. If this was my child, I would fight this all the way up to the Supreme Court.
Madison Cyclist
4:28 pm on Monday, June 4, 2012
Michelle - what if your child is the one accused of bullying? Same stance?
Alyson Music
4:55 pm on Monday, June 4, 2012
Yep! If I ever heard my child was bullying, they would be punished severely! I would make them apologize, or lose all privledges. I would do whatever I had to to fix this. I would take accountability for my child's actions.
Jon
4:42 pm on Monday, July 23, 2012
This is a pretty easy one to solve. They should just pass a law making suicide illegal.
By the way, an open note to bullies: If you try to bully my kid, you are going to have to answer to me if you still keep it up after my kid knocks your teeth out.